I’m sitting at the toilet in my office, tears rolling down my face. This scene has repeated itself so many times before, it’s gotten old. Today, though, I don’t feel depressed or grief-stricken or frustrated or even sad. But I’ve been feeling like crying all the time. Having a really hard time holding these tears back. So I’m blaming estrogen for it. All 12 mg daily of it. I’m also blaming it for the constant nausea, cramps and copious amounts of CM.
I’ve become obsessed and been listening non-stop to this 80’s rock band songs. I haven’t listened to it for at least 10 years or so. The lyrics have a complete new meaning to me now, in light of the last years experiences. The sadness, longing and confusion I earlier associated with teenager’s broken hearts are now so much deeper and more meaningful. And makes me want to cry.
This FET has been a lot more challenging than I anticipated. Hurdles that I need to handle showing up almost at a daily basis. I thought I could get a break this time. It should be simple; I now had a plan, a doctor, a treatment protocol. Buy the medicines, use them at the right times: simple. I should have known nothing is that simple when infertility treatments are involved. Between coordinating several doctors in different parts of the world, contacting pharmacies all over Europe trying to get the best possible price for the (extremely) expensive medicine, travels, work, post delays… I just want this to be over as soon as possible.
I thought last Sunday I would be approaching the end. I could see the light in the end of the tunnel. I’d have my lining check, get the date for the transfer, be excited. Instead, my lining is too thin, they said. Nice and trilaminar, but too thin: only 5 mm after 14 days of estrogen supplementation. That’s when the double estrogen dose entered and should be continued at least until Monday, when they will reassess it. No transfer unless the lining gets above 8 mm.
I handled the news surprisingly well. I guess I’m callous enough by now. The thoughts going through my mind were: “never had lining issues before, but with my kind of luck this will become a new problem going forward. Oh, well, nothing I can do about it now… hope they allow me to try again as soon as I bleed if they cancel this cycle, I don’t want to miss my friend’s wedding in Spain in October!”.
At work my tasks are pilling up, I’m delayed in the project’s schedule and feel bad about it. But when I’m sitting in front of my PC and things are not working, I’m simply not able to come up with a solution. I even tried to write a simple report instead, but couldn’t even muster two intelligible sentences (not sure about this post either). It’s hopeless, I just wish I could fast forward to Friday afternoon, drive to Poland to get the cheaper medicine (1/6 of the price!), drive back, have my appointment Monday morning and figure out whether there will be a transfer this month or not. I also have my third Intralipid infusion scheduled to Monday afternoon, which I need to cancel if the FET is not going forward.
Ugh, I feel like a huge hormonal mess… Just hoping I won’t stay at this dose for much longer…
Oh hun. I really hope that your lining is thickening right up and everything can move forward for you. You deserve a perfect cycle. Praying for good news.
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Thank you, friend! I really hope this double dose is not for nothing… Wishing everything’s going smoothly with you and baby!
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Oh my. I am hopeful for you that things turn around this cycle. I always had trouble with my lining too. It sucks. Prayers it thickens up just in time!
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Thank you! I’m still very hopeful too! I was so wrong thinking growing a thick lining would be piece of cake… Wishing you and Isaac well! Viability in a few days, right? Hugs
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This process is never easy is it? Ugh.
Yes, Friday is officially 24 weeks, thanks dear!
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So excited for you! 💜
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Hugs hugs hugs. I’m sending so much tenderness and warmth your way right now. That level of E2 would make any woman dysfunctional and sobbing in the loo. I’m sorry the plan isn’t obeying orders and hoping for better things. Soon!
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Thank you so much! So good to hear from you! I really appreciate your support, crazy hormonal me is tearing up with your kind words 🙂
Hope A is doing better! You’ve been in my thoughts during these hard times you’re having… Hugs
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You’ve been in my thoughts too. Sorry I had not shared those thoughts sooner.
To make you smile: my phone autocorrected “had not” to habanero. Because… who doesn’t like spicy non sequiturs?
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Im glad you’re sharing now! 😊
And your phone totally guessed I love spicy food! Maybe that’s what I need (though my acupuncturist says no)..
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Ughh, that stinks! I was wondering how your appointment went! I like how you are looking toward the future. I’m curious, were you taking all your estrogen orally or was some vaginally?
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Really sucks, wish you have better luck! Update us soon!
I was taking all of it orally. I’d rather take at least some of it vaginally if I could choose. I’d prefer the messy discharge over the nausea.
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My lining check is in the morning, thanks! I was reading of people who have had better luck taking it vaginally as the medicine is absorbed right where it needs to go basically instead of going through the gut, liver, etc.
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Yeah, I heard that too! Unfortunately my clinic only uses it orally… But I have a good feeling your lining will nice and thick!
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I am sending you lots of positive thoughts that this FET is able to move forward. I’m so sorry about the difficulties and emotions you’re experiencing. You are in my thoughts and I’m sending you big hugs!
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Thank you for your support! I’m trying to stay positive and hopeful.
You’re constantly in my thoughts, really hoping your baby girl is growing! Please update us when you can. Big hugs!
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So sorry. this stinks. I am no doctor, and I do not know the science of it, but this is what happened for me: 1 week before my scheduled FET, I was told the same thing. That my lining was trilaminar and looking good, but too thin at only 6 mm. And I’d been on estrogen for 5 weeks! 5 weeks!!! I was so disappointed, and was having trouble sleeping because of it. So I started taking 3mg melatonin nightly (mainly because I took it while stimming and it helped me sleep like a baby. And I just really needed sleep). Well, I went back for a check of my lining 3 days later, and suddenly it was at 9mm! There’s probably a few different explanations for this. But, I swear it was the melatonin. I stopped it 2 nights before the transfer, and went on to have a successful FET.
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Thanks for sharing! I was taking 4mg melatonin (as per my doctor’s recommendation), but I ran out some days ago. Maybe it affected the lining growth?? I’ve ordered more but haven’t got it yet… Hoping my lining can still thicken without it..
Wish you have a peaceful pregnancy!
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I’m so sorry you’re having a rough time. None of this is fair. I hope you have a good weekend and that you get good news at your appointment Monday and can continue with this transfer.
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Thank you for your support! Hope you and your son are doing very well. Looking forward for an update soon.
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wow that all sounds so stressful. Hug! I know that when I’m going through IVF I find it extremely difficult to focus and be motivated at work. I try my hardest but of course with so much going on in my mind it’s hard, so I can relate to that. I hope that you will find out soon whether the transfer can go ahead or whether it will have to be postponed. Could you take some sick days off work around the transfer to help with the stress of it all? Thinking of you, good luck
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You’re so right, IVF is so stressful, I can’t put my heart and mind into work! I guess I could try to take a few days off, have thought about it, but I always try to push through because I’ll really need to take some days if I miscarry.. Sounds horrible, but I need to be realistic and a loss is harder for me to handle, so I try to save the days I can now.
Hope you’re enjoying your new home! The weather has been fantastic for sitting on the garden..
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I’m so sorry for what you’re going through, but hoping for good news for you at your next appointment
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Thanks you! Glad to see everything is going well for you and baby!
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